Mithmeoi

So I’ve been asked on multiple occasions how I met my husband and what’s our story. I figured what’s better than to type up a page about it! Now I can bore everyone in the world with our story! Nawww, I dunno I find, in my opinion, our story pretty unique really.

So how it all started! I used to browse a ton of fandoms, and one in particular that I started out in was the Balto fandom. As silly as that sounds. I used to draw a lot of fan art. Well this caught the attention of “speedog” aka Micha. I met him in 2005, and he would from time to time leave nice comments about my art on a Balto forum we were on and Deviant Art.
In 2006 he asked a friend of mine, that spoke to him as well, for my msn addy. At first I thought he was just another “Balto Freak” cause we didn’t have a whole lot to talk about other than Balto. I was very very paranoid of people back then and didn’t trust anyone so it was very hard to get to know me. As time went on he released more information about himself, and as he did I began to feel more comfortable so I also started to open up more to him. He was a metal loving social outcast living in Belgium and I was a lonely, just moved to a different state, soon to be in animation school student living in Washington, but I started to find out we did have a lot in common. I helped him through some things he was having a tough time with and he helped me through mine as well, and a bond was formed.

Near the end of summer 2006 we started to become really good friends, and towards the end of that year he started to stand out to me from other people. I knew he was different. In January of 2007 we started having an awkward conversation, I knew something was up but not sure quite what, then his internet died out as he was about to ask me something. So I left for a while and came back to a note sitting in my box on Deviant Art basically telling me that he had started to see me as more than just a friend and asked me if I would ever consider being his girl friend.

Beings as I never had had a boyfriend in real life I found it even more of a tough decision because it was all online. We’d never met in person. So I told him I’d sit on it for a week. I weighed all the positives and the negatives. He being from another country was the biggest hurdle. I prayed about it A LOT and in the end I said yes. The first year we were together was bumpy, I’m not gonna lie. Still trying to adjust to the couple status and just figuring it all out. We always talked out our issues, and through all of that got to know each others personalities very well. Skype and webcam was our weekly routine. I probably spent way too much time online then but ah well.

Two years we remained as an online couple. I told him that my school had to come first before I could plan a trip or vice versa. I graduated in June of 2008 and then I planned to fly to see him, since at the time he couldn’t financially make it to me. There were many things we agreed on before I left too, which I’m not going to get into here cause it’s tedious and not something I want to share since it’s personal.

My parents really didn’t like the idea, that’s probably putting it lightly, and tried to change my mind. I couldn’t just keep living online; I was putting my life on hold basically. I, again, prayed my heart out about it, and I felt at peace with my decision to go. I talked often with a very close friend, and she also played a role in helping me with my decision. It was killing Micha and I both to not know how we would be in real life. If we were truly compatible, or if it would sink. So rather than letting it float in the air for another year or two, I took the risk and flew to Belgium.

The moment we saw each other in person was strange but amazing. It was like wow you’re here in person. It was a bit awkward at first. We got to know each other, went out, and talked a lot about the future. I decided then and there I did not want to be apart from him again. Thanks to a strange law in Belgium, a person is allowed to stay with their Boyfriend/Girlfriend as long as they are fully supported etc, so we went through a whole crapperload of paperwork and got it so I could stay.

The only thing was I was becoming terribly homesick and I needed to tie up some things back home, so we decided to leave for the states together that spring. We had already talked about him living there. So, in April I went back to the states and took him with me so he could see what it was like over there. We had also talked about getting married, but I didn’t want to do anything till my parents had met him and approved. After they met him and got to know him a bit we did get hitched on July 4th of 2009. It was a kind of spur of the moment type wedding up at Lake Tahoe, but I liked it. My parents were there and that’s what I really wanted.

We had an amazing time in the states, but as the end of July approached his passport was running up on time and we had to decide if we were going to try and apply for an adjustment of status for him to stay in the states, or to go back to Belgium so he could wrap things up, save up more, and then we’d apply for his visa/green card in Belgium. We decided the latter, just to be totally legal about it and give him a chance to wrap everything up in Belgium.  It has been an experience living in another country.  Some good and some bad.  I did get homesick a lot, but there were quite a few really cool people that I’ve met and formed friendships with.

We moved back to the States in September 2010 and have been enjoying it immensely.  He missed the food big time, and also says it’s much more calm on this side of the globe.  People are more friendly and relaxed, which after living there for almost two years I can see the difference too.  So from here we want to try to find a place of our own and a good place to settle in at, he can get into a good career, I can keep illustrating, and maybe someday actually start his own garage.  Ultimate goal, US citizenship for Micha, but that’s a few years from now.

It’s been one heck of a journey so far and it’s not over yet!